I am very understanding about it and I'm fine with retaining some independence, especially at this stage in dating. This is something that's very important to her, and it's difficult to be married to someone who doesn't share the same values. She, her family, and her friends all believe that she can't get into the Celestial Kingdom VIP Heaven unless she is "sealed" to a Mormon husband. She cannot get into the top echelons of heaven without being sealed to a worthy priesthood holder in the temple for time and all eternity. It will be up to you, her man, to support the positive expectations. We are now in Residency, have moved each year and started a new adventure each year since marriage.
You are looking for evidence that a. Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission. Thank you, Liz, for your very kind words and encouragement. The right age for getting married varies depends for men and women. Who hit on them or the other way round. I hope I can forgive it someday, but even still my anger is red hot. For me and the woman I'm in love with, we CAN discuss it without breaking down into spittle and hate. Are you going to keep the sabbath holy as a family, or is he going to take the kids out for pizza after church, leaving you home to observe alone. To me, the core question is, is this person inclined toward self transcendence are the inclined, desirous, self aware enough to be selfless.
And you know what. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. Much better to marry in the faith if possible. Breaking up with someone solely because of religion is something people condemn alot on this sub when its a Mormon breaking it off with a non Mormon, but if floats both ways. I pray almost daily that his schedule will get better once we both started working, but I'm constantly concerned that I'll be doing most things alone too.
I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. The odds are definitely not in OPs favor for something like this working for him. The minute i start thinking too far ahead, i get overwhelmed Hello I am responding to the May 1 post.
